Friday, July 10, 2009

Dedicated to you-THE KING


“When someone is passed away, we try to find out their virtues with a magnifying glass but when they r alive we only find out their faults.”Afzal hossain the popular TV actor said this in 2001 after the untimely death of director Aheer Alam.
Today your departure has made me reminded of this.

“I find God inside children”-once you said in an interview.
“Bloody hypocrite.” I said angrily seeing that on paper. Today I’m asking myself.-“why”? Did I ever see u fondling any kid unlike what was proved in the court? Was that possible for me? None of the charges against you were proved true in front of the court, rather those were considered as a trap to extort money from you. But the media seemed to know everything that no one does. They sealed the word ‘child abuser’ beside your name forever--------
But we know, such things really happen. Millions, billons, trillions of kids all over the world are being harassed everyday sometimes by their close ones. Many are embracing death being the victim of Never ending(!) lust of so called ‘elders’. But how many of such cases are bought to the court even after having clear evidence? How many mothers dare to take their children’s side not being aware of the ‘honor’ (!) of their family? And even if someone dares, the police often refuse to take the case because the client is not able to bribe them or just because the accused one is from an ‘influential’ family may be having a political background. Many People around the world miiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiles away from you didn’t miss any single chance to dub you as ‘baby f**ker’ but ignored the real ones around themselves.Why?May be alllllll were jealous of your name and fame which we were unable to earn.

Once in an accident your hair was set on fire and a large portion of your head had been burnt. From then pain killer and u had been friends forever. But why did we come to know this NOW????I still can’t forget that even this accident of your life was once mocked by an eminent American rapper in one of his videos. (I’m intentionally not mentioning his name).But why? Why someone’s pain becomes amusement for the others? How could you dare to heal such a selfish world?

“The man is a crack. Why did he turn his skin white when he was already famous with his black skin”? I heard several people saying this about you. I really never tried to find what made u take such a decision while u had always been raised your voice against racism? Was it a way to show your agression to the world?Or just a severe vitiligo? Duh! What’s the help of knowing this now?

U uttered this in your own exclusive style-
“If you’re Thinkin' Of
Being My Baby
It Don't Matter If You're Black Or White”.
But it still does matter in one way or another. I’m from a country where majority of people have got dark complexion.-“so, what type of bride do u want, dude?”
-“FAIR skinned, tall, slim,a paragon of beauty.” This is the answer which is common to hear after asking the question mentioned above to any guy here. Whenever a dark baby girl is born in a family all her relatives whisper among themselves.-“It will be troublesome to marry her off.” Frustration consumes the girl as she grows up. No matter how good & intelligent she is, no matter how much talent she shows, the society keeps on reminding her-“U r a dark ugly chick.” This is why she suffers from identity crisis. People suggest her fairness creams, home made face packs, even bleaches which damage her skin badly. But nobody dares to say,-“you are a good girl, why do you bother with your complexion”?
The difference between you and us is we can’t scream in the pain of our tortured soul in front of the whole world like you did.So,don’t worry we still can assure you now in your own language that you are not alone. Though you were so lonely in this earth that you had to consider your chimp as your best friend but whenever you were out you had to crawl away from the crowd of fans!!!
Your departure teaches us how helpless the stars become because of fame, scandal and money. May Almighty God give us the wisdom to consider every superstar as a human being of flesh and blood not a superhuman.
Rest in peace in the house of God.Surely we all will see you sooner or later.

Old blogs from yahoo 360(Dreams and pains)

i was shocked 2 c a news in today's prothom alo page no. 4.in ishwardi a 7 years old girl is dead because of being gangraped by some busturds.when i was a school girl i used 2 b stired by this kinda newses.i was so sensitive. d incident wandared across my mind all d day, heart used 2 beat so quickly , i couldn't study attentively and used 2 cry secretly 2 my 1 and only dearest GOD.by GOD'S mercy now i'm imotionally balanced than b4. but still i become very shocked. since i've gained d ability 2 b a mother i've always dreamt of a baby gul.justtttttt like me. with dark brown eyes, curly hair and a heart and brain far better than me. she'll overcome all d deficiancies those i have.i'll teach her 2 b brave , and respectfull 2 herself &all.i've alreaddy given her a name uno?it's JODHY.means struggler /Conqueror.when i get tired i lay down on my bed , take my dolls on my lap and think of her. i'm thrilled wid a glorious feeling.but when i read tihs sort of news i wonder "won't i committ a sin by giving her birth 2 such a world full of beasts and devils"?will i b able 2 guarantee her safety &well being?"whatever i'm still can't give up dreaming of u my little angel.i love u.
2day i went 2 a jewelery shop 2 buy a gift 4 my cousin. a couple stood beside me. they will get married soon. i guessed d gul has been abroad 4 a long time from her accent.the boy asked d gul 2 choose a ring but d gul told him 2 choose 1 for her.i was enjoying their gigglings and talkies.then from other corner of d shop 3 women joined them .they were also wid d couple.an old woman asked d boy-"has she chosen a ring"?'yes ' he replied."and nose pin"?-the woman asked again. then the gul said-"oh no. i haven't pierced my nose".then another woman wid them(may b d boys sister.she didn't were nosepin) said d gul in acccent of an order-"no no no u have 2 do it."d gul sounded scared dis time-"oh no. i can't . it seems so painful, i did once but it's closed"then d women said again-"no. u have 2 do it. u can go 2 a parlour". d gul asked surprisedly_"is it traditional?"'yes"-all d women replied.
i pierced my nose just 2 enhance my style when i was in bsc 1st year.it wasn't so painful.but still i think no 1 should b forced 2 do something like dis .in some families nosepin is accepted as d sign of being married.some women wears it thinking that it will keep her husband from every kind of dangers .if a woman is forced 2 bear pains 4 d safety of her husband. why should man lag behind?why don't they also pierce their tongues or eyebrows and wear a ring 4 d safety of their wives?could any1 plz tell me?

have u ever thought about it?

something wierd happened 2 my page.for about last 1 month many of my friends failed to post comments on my blogs and quick comments to my guestbook.but since u all can see my blogs i think i must keep on blogging.
i'm a bit irregular on net now a days.the day b4 yesterday i logged on to my 'orkut'page..there's an option on the homepage of orkut where u can see what ur friends have added more to their profile.i always like to chk those out.i was checking as usual then to my gr8 surprise one of my bangali friends who claims himself 2 b an engineer working abroad and fathering a son has uploaded some obscene videos on "you tube".i placed my mouse under the clippings and one of them read "rape"-"google video" then the size of the clipping in kilo byte.then another read-"virgin girl's 1st intercourse"and then the 3rd 1."sexclussive clipping from indian computer class".being simply stunned i deleted that man from my friends list.
drinking alcohol and watching porn movies has become fashion for many of today’s boys. And sometimes girls also.i really wonder when any boy who is apparently decent ,religious and who says his prayer regularly enjoy such dirty things.when I had a computer programming course in 2nd yr I needed a pen drive badly to copy all the programs I did in lab to my p.c at home.but the boys who owned pen drives didn’t bother to take them out in lab but to share porns from each other.if u ask them why they are interested to such things they will answer-“what’s bad in this?we r not practicing all those.we r just watching them for time pass.”or more confidently-“oh come on,we need some experience to develop our skills otherwise our wives will kick us out.”
Now Dear porn lovers,have u ever thought that by watching all these garbages u r somehow encouraging this disgraceful art?even in our contry we’ve seen a lot of incidences of girls being kidnapped and raped in front of camera.or being seduced by their boyfriends to have an intercourse even without knowing that there’s a hidden camera rolling inside the room.and those clippings eventually come to u spoiling the girls life.can u imagine ur mother,sister,wife or daughter in her place?we feel very proud that the inventor of “you tube”is a guy from our country.but will it even be joyful for him when he sees that his creation is being abused in such a way?
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Tuesday 15 January 2008 - 09:27PM (EST) Edit Delete Permanent Link 3 Comments

whom will u blame?

“Are girls mean minded by born or the environment makes them mean?”- a few months back this was the fb status message of pinky apu from BUET. Many of her friends expressed their opinion on their comments and tonight this question is burning in my mind once again.If u follow the issue of 16.2.2009 of‘ the daily prothom alo ‘ u’ll find a news which says a 5 years old boy was burnt and dead.the baby boy gave his statement to the TV channels saying that he was burnt by his stepmother.The wretched boy lost her mother 3 years back and his father got remarried. according to the maid servant, Because of being a bit aggressive the boy used to be always humiliated by her stepmom.and here the question arises-Did his stepmom used to humiliate him because he was aggressive or he was aggressive because he was deprived of love and affection he needed?Even in the night before his accident or attempt of killing, His stepmother forced to have his meal sitting on the cold, hard floor instead of dinning table and chair.none other than his father said this to the press.May be he’s happy now with his beloved mom . I believe that Allah will keep his soul in peace who got nothing in such a short life.But this death leaves a lot of questions in our minds.in a male dominated society like ours we have a lot of complaints against the males of being dominating, cruel, inhuman, sex maniac and so on.but where will we go if we, the women keep on setting up such examples ?
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